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Photo by Samantha Hurley from Burst. One of the keys to success in your career is to know how to deal with people. You have to be someone people instantly like, remember and want to work with. Written by: Katy Cowan. That's whether you're meeting people at networking events, seeing new clients for the first time or shaking hands with potential customers — being able to charm and win people over is an essential life skill. But how do you make everyone like you? How do you become the sort of person that everyone wants to talk to? I don't claim to be an expert I still make plenty of mistakesbut here are some rules on how to charm anyone.
The quickest and easiest top tip to remember is this — no one cares about you.
They don't want to know about you. They're not bothered about where you're going on holiday. They're not impressed that you once interviewed Will Smith I did, you know. They don't even care if you've got an upcoming operation. All they care about is themselves. With this in mind, become the kind of person who is interested in other people because we all love the opportunity to talk about ourselves — so imagine how popular you'll be if you're allowing others to speak as much as they like! Ask lots of questions, be genuinely interested, ensure the conversation revolves around the other person, retain eye contact, smile, ask further questions — most importantly, enjoy listening.
You might not end up saying much or talking about yourself, but it doesn't matter. It's all about charm, and allowing people to chat about themselves is the easiest way to win them over. If you've followed rule one and have allowed the other person to do all the talking, they might ask you questions in return.
In which case, be prepared to charm by following these tips: keep things short and sweet; don't go into unnecessary details or waffle; be humble and don't show off; and finally, don't bring up anything negative, political or inappropriate — keep things light, fun and interesting. When you first meet someone, repeat their name to remember it and then drop it occasionally into the conversation. So for example, 'Hi Tom, I'm Katy', and then use their name again if appropriate. Repeat it once more when you say goodbye.
The sound of our name is the sweetest in the world, and people will warm to you if you say their name and remember it. People can always smell weakness, particularly if you're shy or lacking in confidence. They'll sense something isn't quite right and might take an instant dislike to you.
Work on your social skills and become comfortable in your skin.
Walk into a room with your head held high, become extremely confident around other company and speak up. You are worth a hell of a lot, and you deserve just as much success as anyone else. So stand tall and be bold. If you're struggling, think of a confident role model and copy their body language and mannerisms.
Soon enough, you'll be boldly walking up to people and introducing yourself without a care in the world. Body language is very important, so practice in front of a mirror or with a friend until you get it right.
You want to ensure arms are open and not crossed; that legs are relaxed and not crossed and that overall, you look relaxed and approachable. Best way to achieve great body language? Work on feeling relaxed and comfortable in your own skin. People who tend to cross their arms or cover their mouths or fidget could be revealing lots of insecurities, and that can be off-putting. The tone of voice is just as important as body language.
You want to avoid shouting or coming across as aggressive by using a relaxed, gentle tone of voice. You also want to practice the art of assertiveness, i. Work on your self-esteem as well and get used to hearing the sound of your voice. Keep conversation professional at all times by using polite language.
For example, never say 'Ay up! And don't forget your manners. Also, try and keep everything very positive. Don't bring up the awful time you had on holiday or complain about the state of the economy. Charm people over by talking about polite, professional and happy things. A smile is infectious. Everyone loves a happy person, so smile and be glad to be around others.
Your cheerful state of mind will shine through and make you very likeable. If, on the other hand, you're grumpy or disinterested — it will be visible, and you won't leave an excellent first impression, so smile!
Whether you're at a networking event or in a meeting, people can sometimes negatively talk about others. To combat this, don't get involved. Instead, say something positive about that person or company. This attitude is the way I live my life, and I always find it works very well because it shows how sincere and trustworthy you are.
I hate gossip, and I get a terrible impression of people who bitch. If you want to charm people, steer clear of the backstabbing and become a nice person instead. If the conversation is quite slow, try to discover the other person's hobbies or passions. Do they like football? Are they into Formula1? Do they have a tan? Ask them if they've been on holiday. When you find a topic that makes their eyes light up, ask lots of questions and be genuinely interested in their passion, even if it's something you're not bothered about.
They'll love you for it. There will be the odd occasion when you need to speak your mind or share a point of view that others might disagree with. In which case, keep things light but be open and honest. You have to remember that being charming isn't about 'people-pleasing'. You still have to believe in yourself and your principles. People will always respect your opinion — make sure you express it in the right way.
To stay charming, write down the little details about people, so you remember them for next time you meet. For example, a new client might tell you about his wife and new baby, so next time you see him, ask how the baby and mum are doing. It's a great way to show people you care while making them feel important. 30, creatives to enjoy a regular dose of inspiration and motivation, delivered to your inbox every Tuesday.
Creative Boom celebrates, inspires and supports the creative community. Launched inwe love to explore the very best creativity and offer interviews, tips and ideas to help you succeed. Written by: Katy Cowan 11 July Rule 1: No one is interested in you The quickest and easiest top tip to remember is this — no one cares about you. Rule 2: If people ask you questions…? Rule 3: Use the sweetest sound in the world When you first meet someone, repeat their name to remember it and then drop it occasionally into the conversation.
Rule 4: Weakness is off-putting People can always smell weakness, particularly if you're shy or lacking in confidence. Rule 5: Get your body language right Body language is very important, so practice in front of a mirror or with a friend until you get it right. Rule 6: Use the right tone of voice The tone of voice is just as important as body language. Rule 7: Use the right language Keep conversation professional at all times by using polite language. Rule 8: Smile! Rule 9: Praise others instead of getting involved in gossip Whether you're at a networking event or in a meeting, people can sometimes negatively talk about others.
Rule Find their interests If the conversation is quite slow, try to discover the other person's hobbies or passions. Rule Don't people-please There will be the odd occasion when you need to speak your mind or share a point of view that others might disagree with.
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